Still, scientists have discovered patterns that indicate that those who lose their virginity later in life may suffer from some side effects. Show Dr. Stephen Snyder, a sex therapist in New York City, spoke to the Atlantic about what he has witnessed. Snyder revealed that those who wait to have sex until later in life (due to religious beliefs, abstinence or other) tend to feel a great deal of shame about their lack of sexual activity. This shame manifests as embarrassment and embarrassment equates to sexual dysfunction. The patients Snyder encounters often feel a great deal of anxiety about the problem which feeds into a cycle of embarrassment and dysfunction. According to ATTN: the average age at which people lose their virginity is 17. A study published in the American Journal of Public Health, found that those who reported losing their virginity at 22, only five years above average, were significantly more likely to report sexual problems. These issues included struggling to reach an orgasm, struggling to become aroused, and struggling to maintain an erection. These issues were more likely to be found in men who waited to have sex. On the opposite end of the spectrum, previous studies have shown that those how have sex before the average age of 17 also face consequences. A study presented at the 110th Annual Meeting of the American Sociological Association (ASA) tracked two cohorts of youth from 28 rural communities in Iowa and Pennsylvania from 2003 to 2007. The study deciphered the social reaction to sexual activity among peers. Researchers did this by asking participants to identify their best friends. To identify changes in peer acceptance, lead researcher Derek Kreager and his colleagues considered how many friendship nominations participants received in each wave. The study found, in incidences where they reported having sex, girls experienced a 45 percent decrease in peer acceptance and boys experienced an 88 percent increase. "In our sample of early adolescents, girls' friendship networks shrink significantly after they have sex, whereas boys' friendship networks expand significantly," said Kreager. Interestingly, incidences where the participant reported “making out” and not having sex, girls experienced a 25 percent increase in peer acceptance, while boys experienced a 29 percent decrease in peer acceptance. "What really surprised us was that 'making out' showed a pattern consistent with a strong reverse sexual double standard, such that girls who 'make out' without having sex see significant increases in friendships, and boys who engage in the same behavior see significant decreases in friendships” said Kreager. The researchers stated that they believe the results are consistent with gender norms and expectations.
Sexuality is still a sensitive subject, even though people talk about it more than they used to. One area that is still relatively sensitive is the idea of losing one's virginity. You are considered a virgin if you have not had sex, and you lose your virginity if you have sex with somebody else. On the other hand, there is some debate regarding what this actually means. Some people believe that you do not lose your virginity unless you have vaginal or anal intercourse. Other people believe that you lose your virginity if you perform oral sex on somebody else. Therefore, it can be a bit difficult to figure out what age most people lose their virginity because the definition can vary from place to place. Where Do People Lose Their Virginity the Youngest?Scandinavian countries are places where people tend to lose their virginity at relatively young ages. For example, people who live in Denmark, Sweden, Norway, and Finland are believed to lose their virginity as young as 16 years of age. In Iceland, which is not far from Scandinavian countries, it is believed that children there lose their virginity at about 15 years of age. It is difficult to verify these numbers, but there are surveys that have been conducted that have found relatively consistent results. It is believed that there is a common cultural thread that leads to children losing their age during their teenage years. When Do People Lose Their Virginity Across the World?Even though 16 is a bit young for people to lose their virginity, other countries have conducted surveys and found that the vast majority of people lose their virginity between the age of 17 and 20. In general, people who live in Europe and North America lose their virginity at a younger age when compared to people who live in Asia. For example, people who live in the United States, France, and the United Kingdom tend to lose their virginity around 18 years of age. On the other hand, people who live in Japan and Hong Kong tend to wait until they are 19 or 20 years of age to lose their virginity. What Country Has the Oldest Average Age of Virginity Loss?There are some countries that are outliers when it comes to losing one's virginity. For example, people who live in China tend to wait until they are 22 until they lose their virginity. This means that some people may graduate college without ever having sex. People in Singapore and India also tend to wait until the age of 22 to lose their virginity. People in Malaysia often wait until 23 to lose their virginity. Keep in mind that this is an average number. Therefore, there are lots of people who live in all of these countries who lose their virginity at younger ages, while there are some people who may wait until they are older to lose their virginity. "I guess I never got laid because of some combination of being a massive nerd, not being out, and also probably being an asshole, in hindsight." —Seth, 28, Manchester, U.K. "I’m still a virgin, and I think that the big reason that I haven’t lost it yet is because I always put a ton of pressure on myself to have it be this big moment. I’ve had a couple of opportunities, but it just never seemed to live up to my expectations. Then I kind of removed myself from even trying to date, because I lost a ton of confidence in my early 20s." —Ron, 25, Lincoln, NE What was your biggest fear around losing your virginity? "Being on 'woke' Twitter, you see many (warranted) tweets just ruthlessly dunking on men who don’t know how to make women orgasm or who don't know their way around a vulva or are just generally bad in bed for whatever reason, and it’s hard to believe I wouldn’t be one of these men in the bedroom." —Leonard, 23, Dallas, TX "My biggest fear was not being prepared. Anal takes a lot of prep work, and I was just generally nervous about the situation in general." —Amy, 27, Albany, NY "I don't have any sort of sexual worries like I'm gonna find out, 'Oh, no! My penis doesn't work!' But the worry I do have, and this is something I have run into as I've attempted to date, is that telling a potential date that I am a virgin will be a dealbreaker. And, honestly, it's understandable if it is. I mean, I'm 31; being a virgin at my age can absolutely feel like a red flag, or at least a hurdle most women may not be interested in dealing with." —Cory, 31, Atlanta, GA Did you feel pressure to lose your virginity? "I don't think anyone ever wanted me to feel pressure to lose it, but I also think it's impossible not to. The few times I was with people and explained the situation, they would tell me not to feel pressured, but then I could also see they didn't quite know how to meet me at my level. But I think more than anything, I put pressure onto myself. I always said that I would be fine not having sex for the rest of my life, but the fact that I'd never had it made me feel like I was in some way behind. Especially because it hadn't been an active choice, on bad days it could certainly feel like a personal failing." —Hamish, 29, Alberta, Canada "I feel some pressure to lose it. My friends and most people I follow on Twitter talk about getting laid like they talk about grocery shopping, so it seems embarrassing to have such a hard time losing it." —William, 22, King of Prussia, PA "I think the only pressure I felt was from myself. I'd been desperate for romantic attention from women for years and wanted a relationship, sex and all." —Gary, 33, Lansing, MI
Two sets of strangers open up about what they believe is the ideal age for someone to lose their virginity.
There is no correct age to lose your virginity. The age at which people lose their virginity is extremely personal and subjective. It also depends a lot on cultural values. For example, in the United States, the average age for someone to lose their virginity is 17 years old. In Malaysia, the average is 23 years old. Another factor that can play into someone “losing their virginity” is their definition of sex. For most, a “virgin” is someone who has not had penis-in-vagina penetration. However, there are many people in the LGBTQIA+ community who will never have penis-in-vagina sex. Ultimately, it is important to expand the definition of penetration, normalize sex and take the pressure off of young people to lose their virginity at a certain time. After all, each journey is unique and valid.
Opinions, we all have them, especially when it comes to love and sex. So what happens when two people get to share their opinions in an open and honest conversation? Maybe they learn something about the other person and maybe they learn something about themselves? I'm Dr. Judy, and this is Well, In My Opinion. Today, we're asking the question, "What's the correct age to lose your virginity?"
I feel bad. Like it's weird. One of the things, we're like, I do know that I lost it too young.
OK. But I feel funny because I did it telling someone else that it's what to do. But then again, isn't that what life is like? Ex-cons get out of prison and go, "Don't kill people." So, you know, I'm going to say I'm just going to straight up say.. oh my God, I almost at the age that my daughter is, so I'm not gonna say that age that age, because then she's going to see this and go, "that's the age," and I'm going to be like, "no, I was kidding." She's like, you look pretty serious to me.
I'm like, I'm not answering what I really think, I'm answering on how people are gonna react. I'd be a great president. I think it's probably like… it's got to be an even year, too, right? It's probably 16, dude. Let's just be real. You get your car. Dude now I just sound weird talking about people having sex at 16.
I think you would say for a boy… 16.
But a girl, he would say, "Over 25."
No, because our 14 year old son, I'm worried about him turning us into grandparents way before I'm worried about [our daughter].
Yeah, but you're way more lenient on him.
You don't ask him where he's going and then spy on him and ask, you know…
Because he doesn't have some boy trying to get in his pants. I mean, maybe he does.
18. It's 18. It really is 18. The more I think about the 18. I'm not going to lie to you, the girl that I lost to it, we were just naked and like [arms gesturing stiffly] just, you know, I guess, dry humping and just kept kind of going. And then eventually it's just like flopped in, you know what I mean?
Because you didn't know what you're doing. You don't even know that it went in the right hole.
And I had lied to her. She thought I had done it before. I talked a big game.
I think everybody lies. I for sure lied about already doing it and I didn't do it.
Yeah, because you want to feel like you already know.
I'm just surprised it went in there, because later in life, it's been hard to get in, sometimes, you know? I mean, that's just kind of went through it.
It was like I had a hero sandwich in a banana. I just kept tossing it towards it. Eventually, you're going to get the sandwich, not the first time, but you're going to get in there one in 47 chance, you know. So as long as you thrust 47 times, you're going to have sex.
The average age in the United States for someone to lose their virginity is 16.9 years old for men and 17.2 years old for women. The country where people wait the longest to lose their virginity is Malaysia with an average of 23 years old. The bottom line: There's no correct age to lose your virginity. It's whatever's right for you.
Honestly, I'll just give an age. I'll say the adult age at 18 to me is… it's comfortable, at least. I mean, you've had sexual feelings for probably a good five years by that point. And being able to really explore and kind of learn about it. But if you're, you know, mature enough to handle the consequences of sex and all that. But I think in terms of mentally mature, I think 18 is the best.
It's interesting because I was pretty young when I lost my virginity. I was probably like, I think I was like 13 or 14. But I think it really just depends on the person. And just like how educated you are, and I feel like we need to be doing more to educate kids on sex. And I feel like a lot of the sex education that goes on it just like demonizes sex, and that's just going to make a kid want to do it more. So we need to really just be 100% open and transparent with what really goes on because people don't really realize, oh, don't just have unprotected sex, so you don't have a kid, whatever we pull out. You don't know about these STDs that these people have.
Even the emotional toll of exactly sex and just, you know, there are non-sexually transmitted diseases that will affect your physical body and your health as well.
You get cancer from certain STDs.
Yeah. And sterilization happens, yeast infections, things of that nature. So it's like, if you can't talk about that and you can't get treated because you're minor, it's like, oh. It is about maturity, but sex comes with stuff.
It does. And you're better able to handle it when you're older and have more experience and you can really talk about your body, talk to your partner. Because what 13 or 14 year olds really having, you know, deep discussions about sex and not another 14 year old.
You should be mature enough to be able to talk about your wants and your needs and your feelings.
Kids don't know how to do that. A lot of people don't know. Some adults don't even know how to do that, and it is super important before you have sex with anyone…
A lot of people don't know how to do that.
You need to know how to communicate with them. So I don't think you should be having sex until you know how to effectively communicate with your partner.
Right. And I think, I mean, if you're a boy or girl, if you're a girl and you go to the gynecologist and you're embarrassed, you shouldn't be having sex.
Boy, you go to the doctor and you're embarrassed by, you know, any kind of sexual situations or talk or your body and you don't know what's going on, you shouldn't be having sex at that point. So I think in terms of losing your virginity, you need to have the maturity to deal with what comes with being sexually active.
Even though I lost my virginity at a young age, I definitely don't condone really, you know, doing that, that young. I just feel like it's just so much better when you're mature and you know what you want and you know what you deserve, most of all. Because you just get all messed up, and when you're young, you don't need to be worrying about these kinds of things. You should be, y'know, what cereal you're going to eat.
You know, you have sexual feelings, but it's like the social responsibility that that comes with the physical responsibility about your health, all those things require someone who's older and has more experience.And, you know, I come from a family of young mothers. My grandmother was a mother by 16 and I have aunts who are mothers as teens. I have two best friends who were mothers by the time they graduated from high school. And I talk to them all, and they would rather have been older when they had their children. And it's just like, you know, just because you have sex doesn't mean you can really, I mean, you're forced now to deal with the consequences of it. So I think it's important to be mature when you lose your virginity. Definitely.
There's really no correct age to lose your virginity. But I think that it is such a rite of passage for most people that it probably does deserve a little bit of contemplation instead of it being an impulsive thing. Sometimes people feel like if they lose their virginity too late, it's embarrassing. But actually, I think it's really just about what makes you the most comfortable and what makes you feel like you're going to be the most emotionally stable after that event, especially if that relationship doesn't go anywhere, that it's just a sexual relationship. If it's just something casual, do you believe you can emotionally handle it? If you do, then it's OK, go for it. I'm Dr. Judy, and this has been Well, In My Opinion.
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