How to make him earn your love

Have you experienced getting paranoid over your husband or boyfriend?

Do you sometimes feel the fear that he might find someone else – someone prettier, sexier, and better than you?

If your answer to either or both questions is yes, then don’t worry: you are not alone.

Almost every woman in the world share this kind of feeling, the fear of being left for someone else. However, most members of the female species only look at this from one angle, that men are by nature polygamous. That doesn’t sound quite fair, right?

Sure, men have the tendency to look around, but going the extra mile and entertaining a new girl while still in a relationship is often triggered by deeper issues, and you should be aware of that. Maybe he has started to look around just to think, or maybe he has started to simply love you less.

But instead of wallow and grieve, perhaps you would want to take this challenge differently through one-shot prevention and cure: by making him love you more.

Doing this is actually easy, and you can start with the following surefire ways:

1.Listen to him. Always.
Men like to think that they are in control of the relationship, and you should give that to them man-even if sometimes you know otherwise. And while he wants to tell you about his dreams and aspirations, if you keep on giving pessimistic opinions each and every time, the more he would think that you don’t care about his feelings anymore, thus leading him to go and look for someone he could vent on.

Rather than let someone else serve as a shock absorber, why not start listening to him. Be more patient and attentive whenever he talks about his ideas and whims, as for him this shows that you are there for him through thick and thin.

2. Stay pretty.
While your man won’t admit it, he does want to see you pretty at all times. Yes, men can be superficial sometimes, but not to the point that they want their girlfriends or wives to look like movie stars all the time. Sometimes, even just a simple powder and lipstick retouch can go a long way.

A man who is truly in love always sees his lady as his source of pride, someone he can show off to the world as his partner. But how can he do that if you don’t take the time to dress up and be beautiful?

You may want to maintain a signature fashion style that’s neat and classy but not too flashy, a style that showcases your confidence and personality. With this at hand, your man will not only love you more but would be more proud of the fact that he’s in a relationship with someone gorgeous inside and out.

3. Pamper him with little things.
Most men usually give their girlfriends flowers, chocolates, pieces of jewelry, and other presents. But while they ask nothing in return, they do want to be pampered sometimes.

You may want to treat your guy for a massage, especially in times when he is totally stressed from work, or cook him dinner that would comfort his senses. You may also want to take him out on a date for a change, or watch a movie he totally likes. Seeing these simple efforts are a big deal for most men, as they cannot resist being treated like a king.

4. Be his solicited voice of reason.
When a guy starts to talk to his girlfriend or wife, he intends to get two things: a good listener and a voice of reason. While a good listener is a default requirement, a voice of reason has still to be decided on, thus you have to act with caution when going for the latter.

Your man secretly appreciates it when you speak your mind, but he wouldn’t show it outright. It is because he has his pride to maintain, and accommodating his girlfriend or wife’s opinion openly is often seen to be damaging the male ego. So yes, it would be better to share your take on things only when he asks for it. On your end, you not only get to say what you want but deliver your words without disrespecting him.

5. Don’t nag. Ever.
Sometimes when in a relationship, you find yourself pressing your preferences on your partner, even if he doesn’t agree to this. When he doesn’t give in, you tend to nag and become angry, and in return, he becomes angry too. You don’t want to fight over petty things, just because you didn’t get what you were asking from him, right?

A cardinal rule in any relationship is for you never, ever nag. Don’t ever tell him repeatedly to come home on time, or to buy you flowers, to remember special calendar dates. Rather, let him do the effort in making things special, or getting used to what you want. Give him the space to adjust and realize what’s tolerable for you and what’s not. By then he’ll know where exactly the two of you position yourselves in this relationship and move from there.

6. Value your individuality.
Do you remember why your man fell in love with you? He fell in love with your uniqueness as an individual. This includes the way you smile, your wit and smarts, your kindness, the way you dress up and the way you think and act.

Guess what: most women tend to lose these qualities bit by bit like the relationship blossoms, as they become more consumed by what their boyfriends or husbands want them to be. But that doesn’t work that way. It is important to keep in mind that you stay the way you are – the woman your man fell in love with. Sure, you two may already be in a relationship, but that doesn’t mean that you lose yourself in the process. Rather, value yourself as an individual and let him feel it. This way, he’ll only love you more because he knows your true worth.

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By Adrienne Mansfield

Forget all the bad advice you’ve ever been told, and keep reading to find out the 7 things that actually work to make a man fall in love with you.

However, even where there’s chemistry, a relationship can still go burning down in flames. Some things women do will sabotage a relationship and other things will make it more likely for a man to fall in love.

Here is a list of 7 things you can do to make him fall in love with you:

1. Be Emotionally Independent

Being emotionally independent means that you take responsibility for your own happiness. That means that you don’t depend on a guy to make you happy.

Emotional independence is the opposite of neediness, and nothing will kill a relationship faster than neediness.

Men don’t fall in love with needy women. They fall in love with women who are living happy, fulfilled lives, all on their own.

2. Stand Up For Yourself

Don’t let a guy walk all over you. You do not have to put up with any bad behavior. If he treats you in any way that’s not okay with you, let him know.

If a guy stood you up and gave you some lame excuse, what would you do? Would you go out of your way to let him know it’s okay and clear your schedule to meet up another time? Do you see what’s wrong with that?

If a guy knows he can get away with anything he wants and you’ll still be waiting around for him, he’s not going to value you. He’ll take advantage of you, but he’s not going to fall in love with you.

Men value things they have to earn. Be confident and see yourself as the prize that your man has to work hard for to win.

Being the prize is all about inner confidence and knowing that you are worthy of being loved, adored, and worshipped.

If you feel unworthy and are constantly trying to impress a guy and win him over, he’s going to sense that you don’t value yourself. If you don’t value yourself, why would he?

Men are hard-wired to chase after women, not the other way around. When you treat him like the prize and work hard to win him over, you’ve got it all backwards. If he feels like you roped him in, he’s going to feel trapped because it wasn’t his choice.

A man falls in love and commits to a woman when it’s his choice to chase after her and fight for her. He’s got to feel like he won the prize.

4. Be Vulnerable

A big part of falling love is your willingness to be vulnerable. For a guy to fall in love, he’s got to see the real you. It can be scary, but you have to be vulnerable enough to let him see who you really are.

Part of being vulnerable is being okay in your life with or without the relationship. You have to be secure enough and love yourself enough to still be happy even if the relationship ended.

If you are always acting out of fear of losing your guy, you are going to come off as desperate. Be comfortable with who you are and what you want.

If you have needs that aren’t being met, don’t be afraid to let your man know. If he doesn’t respect you, then he’s not the right guy for you anway.

5. Acknowledge And Appreciate Him

A man falls in love with a woman based on how he feels around her. At the end of the day, all a man really wants is to make you happy. He wants to feel like a super hero around you.

A man needs to feel that you love and appreciate him for who he is, with no agenda. If you see the things in him that he feels other people ignore, he’s going to feel connected to you.

When you recognize his best qualities and show your sincere appreciation, he won’t be able to help falling in love with you.

Take the time to ask your guy how his day was and actually listen to him. Let him talk and show him that you actually care about what he has to say.

A lot of women get caught up in the fantasy of having a boyfriend. They might not care that much about the guy they’re with, so long as they are with somebody and don’t have to be alone.

A man doesn’t want to feel like he’s just filling the boyfriend slot and could easily be replaced by any other guy with a pulse. He wants to feel that the woman he’s dating actually cares about him and wants to be with him.

If you’re just faking your way through the relationship to have a boyfriend, your guy isn’t going to feel connected to you.

7. Give Him Space

Men don’t fall in love the same way women do. They actually need space to feel more connected to you.

It seems counterintuitive to women, so they often make the mistake of smothering a guy when he really needs time on his own. But don’t take it personally. It’s just the way guys are wired.

For a man to fall in love, he needs to feel safe. He needs to know that he’s not going to lose his identity or his freedom.

If you freak out when he just needs to have some guy time and get in touch with his masculine side again, you’re going to make him feel like he’s losing his freedom.

A man will fall in love with a woman who understands that he just needs time to recharge and doesn’t get clingy. When he’s off spending time without you, that’s when he will understand and appreciate what he has with you.

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