There’s a simple answer to this question: yes. Show While we prefer the phrases actively concerned and making plans to remedy the situation as opposed to worry, what we mean is that running away is nothing to take lightly. If your teen runs away, especially more than once, it increases their risk of developing a host of long-term physical and psychological problems. It also increases the risk of exposure to dangerous behavior from runaway peers and predatory adults. But before we get into the facts and figures, we need to make two things clear. According to the award-winning parenting support site verywellfamily, it’s important to understand that: Besides, the word bad is almost never helpful when describing teens, parents, and their relationships. We use it here as shorthand for decisions or behaviors that have negative outcomes, and to counter the voice in your head that may whisper things like this: My kid ran away – I must be a bad parent. My kid ran away – maybe my kid is just a bad kid. Teens who run away and return often do so to gain power over a situation in which they feel powerless, while parents of teens who run away have often let the parent-child relationship deteriorate to the point where communication is either difficult or non-existent. For more information about our That said, we’re not going to sugar-coat the reasons teens run away. First, though, let’s look at the big-picture numbers on runaways:
That’s a significant amount, but not an overwhelming percentage. We won’t downplay the gravity of the situation, however. Any time a teen runs away, there’s something going on at home that needs attention. Why Teens Run AwayA report released by the Missing Children’s Network identifies three primary reasons teenagers run away from home:
Let’s take a closer look at #3 because it’s common to think that most kids who run away are almost always running away from an abusive situation at home. That’s not necessarily the case. Data collected by the National Runaway Safeline shows that, of the 33,000 + calls they received in 2016:
We offer these numbers to show that not every child who runs away does so because they’re trying to escape a nightmare scenario at home. As mentioned above, the most common reasons are power and communication. But kids who do run away and spend any time on the streets do indeed put themselves in harm’s way. Risks for RunawaysLet’s take a look at what can happen to teens once they do run away, and how running away from home correlates with various struggles both in the late teen years and later in life: [Sources: National Runaway Safeline and The National Conference of State Legislatures]
We present these facts to support our assertion in the first line of this post: if your teen runs away, it’s a problem you need to be actively concerned about. Even if they come back, while they’re out on the street, they’re vulnerable sexual predators, drug dealers, and peers who already engage in high-risk behaviors. What to Do When Your Teen Runs AwayExperts on teen runaways advise the following:
You can also take steps such as making and distributing pictures and posters of your child throughout your local community, contacting any additional state or local missing children’s clearinghouses, or calling 1-800-426-5678 (1-800-I-AM-LOST) to register your child as missing. What to Do When Your Teen Comes HomeThe people at verwellmind.org offer this helpful list of steps to take when your runaway child comes back home:
The bottom line here is that a child who runs away multiple times repeatedly puts themselves in physical and emotional danger. When you reach that point with your teen, it doesn’t matter how you got there. Naming and blaming are not productive. Finding and remedying the root cause is what matters. To find professional help for you and your teen, start with the following resources: The Parents and Families page maintained by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Service Agency (SAMHSA). The psychiatrist finder provided by the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. For additional facts and figures about teen runaways, visit The National Runaway Safeline website mentioned several times above. Angus is a writer from Atlanta, GA. He writes about behavioral health, adolescent development, education, and mindfulness practices like yoga, tai chi, and meditation. Young people run away for a range of reasons – it may be that you have been arguing for some time, or it may be to do with problems that your teenager feels unable to talk to you about like bullying, sex and relationships, drugs, or a combination of problems. In the midst of an argument your teenager may threaten to run away, or you may in fact tell them to go - you’ve had enough. But in the majority of cases, when the teenager has actually run away both adult and teen wish they could turn the clock back and prevent it from happening. Making sure the threat doesn’t become realityWhen there have been problems building up for sometime it is often difficult to step back. But sometimes you may need to take time out and think about what your teenager is telling you. Give them the space to tell you what is going on from their perspective. You do not have to agree with everything they say but listening is important. If your teenager can see that you’ve taken on board their concerns, they are more likely to listen to you in turn. How to find your runaway teenIf they do leave start looking in the most likely places – their friend’s houses and your relatives. As you contact their friends ask them to let your teenager know, should they see them, that:
Let them know there are ways they can keep in touch with services like Message Home, provided by the Missing People helpline. If you cannot find your teenager through these contacts, try social services and local hostels. Many travel to another area so think about where they would be most likely to go. Returning homeIf your teenager has run away and decides to return don’t expect all the problems to have disappeared. Discuss what returning home might be like before they come back so that neither of you have any false expectations. Encourage them to talk to you about any problems they are facing and be prepared to listen. Be aware that some things that might have happened to them since they have been away may be difficult to talk about. Some local organisations offer mediation services which might be able to help and be prepared to make some concessions and meet your teenager halfway. At first your teenager may get in touch but be unsure about returning home, you may have your own concerns about them coming back to your home as well. You may feel you need some time to sort things out in your mind. In this case it may help if a close friend or relative could allow your teenager to stay. You will then be reassured they are safe and you can start to talk things through at an agreed meeting point – somewhere that feels comfortable for both of you.
Further resourcesYou can speak to an organisation called Missing People who can give you advice and support. It may help to chat to other parents on our forums to find out how they are dealing with this issue within their family life. You can also talk to us online via our live chat service, email us at or call us on our helpline on 0808 800 2222 to speak to trained family support worker. Why do teens run away from home? We look at some of the reasons, the signs to look out for, and what you can do if you're worried your teen might run away This page was updated on September 2021 |