Each child is unique and they each have different temperaments. Some children are active, others are quiet; some adapt easily to change while others react uneasily to change; some give clear signals to others about what they want and need while others find it difficult to communicate their needs with others.There are many factors that contribute to children’s behaviour. Programs and routines, equipment and resources, the physical environment, interactions between children and between adults, how they rest and sleep, nutrition and medical conditions all affect the child’s behaviour at a service. While at home changes to the family environment, birth of a sibling or moving house can also have an effect. Consistency in the behaviour guidance strategies used at the service and at home help the child’s learning and development. Guiding every child's behaviourEducators at your service will provide different levels of support to children of different ages. For example, a toddler who is not yet verbal and may bite others as a way of gaining some control over their environment will need a different level of understanding and support to that of an older child who demonstrates inconsiderate behaviour as they interrupt the play of others by continually knocking down their construction.Each situation is seen as a ‘teachable moment’ where children can learn, develop empathy, understand the consequences of their behaviour and actions, and build their own strategies for responding to challenging situations. Each child has capacity to learn and develop the life-long skills of resilience, negotiation and problem solving, supported through positive relationships with educators and other children as they attend child care. Developing positive relationships with children is the most powerful tool that educators have to guide children’s behaviour. The day to day interactions lay the foundations for developing the child’s self-esteem, positive attitudes, values and behaviour patterns.
Babies don’t need discipline. Babies cry because they’re hungry, wet, tired, in pain or need to be held. You can’t spoil a baby by tending to their needs. When they start crawling, they get into everything so make sure you baby proof your home to keep them safe while exploring. As your baby grows, it’s likely you will start to develop a routine, but it’s important to be flexible. At this age, distracting a baby or offering them an alternative activity when they are doing something you don’t like, is going to be more effective than saying ‘Don’t’ or showing anger. Toddlers and pre-schoolersToddlers and preschoolers are beginning to learn the basic rules of positive behaviour, but they can be challenging at times.
The calming impact of nature Think about ways to keep children and young people calm when emotions seem to ‘fly out of control’. Try taking them swimming regularly, get back to nature with bush walking or focus them through a regular outdoor sport. Sometimes this helps reduce frustrations and can have a calming impact on behavior and emotions.
Once kids are at school, you can start putting in place clear rules, limits and boundaries. This helps them learn independence, take responsibility and begin solving their own problems. Discipline will be most effective when you are consistent, communicate openly and often, and keep up a warm and loving family environment. Here are some ideas for encouraging positive behaviour in the child or young person in your care.
The following organisations and educators provide support and guidance on parenting issues to carers of children and young people. Raising Children Network Relationships Australia 1300 364 277 Offers a range of support services including counselling, therapy and mediation services. Relationships Australia also has a specialist service to help reslove issues between teenagers and their parents or carers. WoodleyWonderWorks
Working as a childcare professional can be a challenge especially when dealing with behavioural problems which may arise. The techniques we use when dealing with children's behaviour are obviously going to be different than those used by parents. Our aim is to provide the children with a positive atmosphere and establishing opportunities for recognizing and reinforcing appropriate behaviour. The strategies listed below will enable you to maintain responsible behaviour and help you to prevent undesirable behaviour, for each child. Set Limits in a Positive Way, rather than in a Negative WayTalk to children about limits in a positive way which focuses on what to do, rather than what not to do. This reinforces to the children on what is appropriate and by role modelling the right way to communicate the children will begin to observe and imitate you. Instead of:
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Set Clear, Consistent and Simple LimitsLimits are statements made either verbally or non – verbally. They are used to ensure children know what is expected of their behaviour. When setting limits it's important to keep them simple and only enforce limits that a necessary. The children are required to learn 20 different limits that you have set. Example:
Focus on the Behaviour, not the ChildWhen you focus on the child's behaviour, rather than on the child, you offer positive guidance for developing positive behaviour. However, when focusing on the child rather than the behaviour, this will generate feelings of guilt, shame and the child will develop low self esteem. After all it's the behaviour that's the problem, not the child. Instead of:
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Provide Choices to the ChildProviding choices to a child will be helpful in avoiding power struggles (especially for young children). When offering real alternatives to a child, you are providing an opportunity to exercise choice and it is likely that the child will co-operate with the task. Instead of:
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Recognize and Reinforce Appropriate BehaviourWhen a child is doing well it's so important to acknowledge this through words or gestures. Positive reinforcement helps children build self esteem and encourages them to continue with desired behaviour. It's vital to recognize and reinforce the specific behaviour not the child. Instead of: Say:
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State Expectations, not ask QuestionsWhen establishing routines, limits and expected behaviours, it's important to state rather than to ask. By asking questions offers a child with a choice. There are many opportunities throughout the day for children to make appropriate choices however when there is no choice (like going to the toilet when a child's need to or packing away for lunch) make a clear statement of what is expected. Instead of:
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Allow time for Child to Respond to ExpectationsChildren react better when they are offered cues and warnings (not threats). This helps them to prepare for change. Give children time to respond, rather than demanding immediate results. Instead of:
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Encourage Child to Seek HelpChildren have a greater sense of comfort and trust when they know that you (childcare worker) is there to protect, guide and help them. It's important for you to be willing to listen and respond to each and every child in a fair and supportive manner. Instead of:
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Responding to Minor Issues & SuperviseAs a childcare professional you need to develop a tolerance for a certain amount of noise, clutter and attention seeking behaviour. As long as the children's activities are not disturbing others, it's best to count to 10 rather than make a big deal out of a small issue. When you observe the children at their activities, you are in a better position to deal with potential difficulties and step in to prevent problems as they arise. It's important to remember that each and every child is different and this is your chance to guide each child's behaviour in an appropriate manner while maintaining each child's self esteem and opportunities to grow and develop. It's vital that all childcare staff within the centre are all following the same behavioural management strategies and are consistent with the techniques. This is important for building positive relationships between childcare staff and the children. By establishing clear and simple limits and by continually reinforcing and acknowledging positive behaviour, it will help you to establish positive relationships between you and each individual child as they begin to grow and develop in a safe learning environment. |